Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Taking it all in strides

In our little cul-de-sac there are houses, just like ours, that are considered multi-family homes. And in them live the best of all kids, who range from ages 0-15. And wow, are they an impressive group. Every time the sun goes down and they inevitably come out to play a game of kickball in rollerblades or race their bikes up and down our street, Jude gasps when he hears their fun, runs to the window and squeals, “Hey, girls! What ‘r you doin’?!” And they sweetly yell up, “Hey Jude!” 
Last night, the air had cooled significantly and we decided to take out our scooter and join them. 
Yeah, I take pictures of Jude on his scooter and it might look like he knows what he’s doing, but most of the time just he and I go out and he weakly pushes off for a couple yards and then finds something else to do, or he puts both feet up and expects me to push him the whole way. I’ve been dying to have him really use it and challenge himself and gain some gosh-darn balance. But, each time we try we ultimately leave without developing any new skills on the freaking thing. 





But alas! Last night—OH, last night—Jude, seeing the other kids with their scooters and their bikes, decided he wanted to keep up with them, and just took off. Like, don’t-scare-your-mother-or-anything-going-down-that-hill, took off. He weaved, he soared, he CONQUERED. 
Guys, it was amazing. 


Scooter! from Britney Stevens on Vimeo.

And then, when it inevitably got dark and the street lights came on, it nearly broke his heart, but we had to say goodnight. 
And as I sat him on the potty, and positioned myself square with his filthy face and his matted and sweaty helmet hair, he looked up at me and said, in young toddler grief, “The girls.” I told him I know he misses them and that we’ll go out again tomorrow. And then he looked me in the eyes again and rambled something about falling down and rocks and that he’s okay. 
And then my heart swelled. 

Listen guys, I try not to talk too much about our journey trying to get Jude to talk and communicate on the level he “should” be at his age, because it’s tiresome and difficult. But what I will say is that the past two years have been agonizing. You moms and dads of kids with speech and communication delays know the sadness and longing you feel for your little one to talk to you, to look at you and to even initiate play with you. You know the frustration of people and parents looking at your kid, looking at their own, and then looking at you and thinking (or even asking), “What’s wrong with him?” Or having little kids not like him, or even pick on him, or bully him, because he isn’t talking as much as them, and praying he doesn’t know that the kids are being mean, as your heart breaks when he half smiles and goes off and does something else, all-the-while you knowing full-well there’s nothing wrong with this darling, sweet, mischievous, smart, affectionate little child, he’s just not talking yet. 
He’s JUST not talking yet. 
And clinging to those people who can look at him and say, wow, Jude is so smart, or so sweet, or so handsome, or any of the other millions of wonderful things that he is. 

I’ve had people say, “Have you had him checked?”, “Did you check his ears?”, “You know, he might have autism”, “Oh, have you heard of speech therapy?”, and I smile and say “Thank you for your advice and concern” because I really do mean it, but at the same time thinking, “I live with this daily, you really think I haven’t considered all of this? And not just considered it once, but it actually occupies my mind constantly, every day, every moment and every time I try to get him to say 'apple' or 'mama' or 'please' or even just respond to his name for the millionth time?"
I’ve had people say, “You know, you’ve been off working, maybe that’s why he’s not talking,” as if me being gone two times a week for the last 4 hours he's awake is the reason my son has major communication delays (and gosh, that’s not harsh or anything)—and can we please talk about something else that doesn’t involve your completely speculative, uneducated, and self-proclaimed-brilliant opinions about my son who you barely know, and not pull them back out until I ask for them? I appreciate that you’re newly concerned for the welfare of my son, and that you have about a million golden nuggets of advice to throw in my face about why your child talks so beautifully, clearly and early, that I promise are due purely to your child’s personality and probably have absolutely nothing to do with anything you did, but no please: Tell me that I should talk to him more, read to him more, set up more playdates, play more music, turn off the TV, take him to a speech therapist, pray, or have his hearing checked (please, tell me one more time to have his hearing checked, because I might forget), because I swear, I just sit here thinking in a dull stupor, “Someone please help me, I think my son might not be talking.” 

But recently, over the past 6-9 months, things have become easier, and he’s become a different kid. He is still my same darling, smart, sweet, mischievous and handsome little man, but he has decided it’s time. Time to open his mouth and eyes and embrace his speech and the world around him. 

And it has made me realize what I realized all along, but what I regrettably questioned at times with all the negativity and doubt around me: He really was everything I knew he was, he just wasn’t ready. And now, each and every day I practice the speech tactics we learned from a wonderful, patient, loving speech therapist who reassured me over and over again, “He’ll talk when he’s ready, but for now, these are things you can do”, he learns something new, says something new, and loves something new. 

And it makes my heart swell over and over again. 

We still have a long way to go, but every time he says, “Mama, may I have juice?,” or “Mama, this is for baby sister,” or sings “I love you,” I think back to a year ago or two years ago and wish I had been less worried and just allowed myself to completely embrace him for who he was at that moment. 




Because, guys, every day with him really is the best day of my life. 

Monday, July 21, 2014

Jude and Meema

All last week we were up in upstate New York enjoying the beautiful Adirondacks at Lake George! This year was extra-special because our near-90-year-old Grandma Handley came all the way from Missouri to spend the week with us, along with one of my aunts and cousins. It was a total blast and well-deserved, especially for our poor, neglected Jude who is constantly trying to peel this mama off of the couch. Hey, I made you lunch, didn't I? 

While I sort through photos, here's my favorite video of the trip:
Jude and Great Grandma (Meema) really bonded over the week and he gets so excited to see her now and give her kisses :).


Meema and Jude from Britney Stevens on Vimeo.

Tears, people. Tears. 

Saturday, June 28, 2014

These days..

These days, you'll find me either sitting on my butt at home, or sitting on my butt near a body of water, sucking down disgusting amounts of water, gushing over as much fruit as possible, and dreaming about donuts. 
I'm seriously the sexiest thing ever right now. 
My baby-daddy can't seem to get enough of this, with my frequent, desperate urges to pee immediately or wet myself, my newly-plump boobs lying in constant exhale on my stretch mark-riddled belly, the new armpit fat that makes wearing men's (husband's) deodorant absolutely necessary, or the fact that I can't see my upper thighs well enough to adequately shave them. 
Yeah, go ahead and ask yourself how I'm not pregnant with another baby on top of this one.
Ask yourself. 
Because it's a d#!n mystery. 
Frequently, I ask myself whether that little boy standing next to me is staring at me because he thinks I either have snacks or because he's never seen a woman with another human inside her before, and for him this is something he's only heard stories about, like, "Mom you said dinosaurs didn't exist anymore" kind of a moment. Whatever, kid. I can be that person for you.  
I also wonder if people stare because they are excited for me or are looking on in horror that I'm creating yet another child as I wrangle up my adorably terrible 3-year-old. 
But currently, positively, until little miss wonderful makes her entrance in our lives, my leggings still have their stretch amidst being squeezed into daily, my sun glasses seem to be making me feel a little cooler, my baby will be here within the next month, and I can eat a whole Shack Burger with fries and feel completely fantastic afterwards. 

It's the last month, people. And I'm pretty sure I'm rocking it. Like Jude is rocking this whole pooping in his pants thing, I'm rocking it. 






Monday, June 23, 2014

The Babbitts came for a visit!

Summer is officially here and we're stupidly excited about it! 
My sister-in-law Kim and her amazing sisters and mom were planned a girls week in the city this past week all the way from Boise and we thought it was just as good of an excuse as any to take them on a tour of our favorite cheap eats of the city, while also basking in some pretty glorious weather.
Dang it New York, when your weather is this good I can't help but fall in love with you that much more!

This boy takes after his mama with his love for trains, I tell ya. 


It's Kim! After this we stepped in to grab some Big Gay ice cream. That Salty Pimp is always so good to us (gross). 



We got Shake Shack for lunch and took it over to a beautiful spot in Central Park. And Jude thought it was an appropriate time to hide behind a tree and poop. That beautiful. 







































We finished off our visit with a stop at Levain Bakery for some of their insane chocolate chip walnut cookies and ate them on a random person's stoop. 

Thanks for letting us tag along, ladies! It was so good to see all of you! 

Wednesday, May 28, 2014

Big sister's graduation!

Last week my sister, Briana, graduated with her Masters in Applied Behavioral Analysis from Columbia University! 
Honestly, we have all been gushing with pride over this girl. She's worked so hard with so many sleepless, stressful nights that we were sure we'd find her each morning lying under her bed in her underwear eating fried chicken and avoiding all of her overwhelming school responsibilities.
But instead, we'd arise each morning and just like the last she'd be up and long gone to school and work. 
What a girl. WHAT a girl. 
We love that Aunt Briana. 

This past Wednesday was a gorgeous day in NYC and we had such a blast as a family going into the city to support her and her huge accomplishments with the rest of Manhattan and families from all over the world. 



Check out that slice. 

Our new best worst picture ever :).  

We love you, Aunt Nanna! So glad we're roommates. 

Friday, May 2, 2014

75 and Sunny!

Yesterday was by far the most beautiful, summer-like day we've experienced so far this year and it made me so happy! 
Waking up mid-day from working the previous night to 75 degrees, lawnmowers, chirping birds, and squealing children, made me immediately grab Jude and run (complete exaggeration) outside with his scooter in hand. 


Tulips! 
Yup, world...
It's going to be a great summer. :) 








Tuesday, March 25, 2014

The 3rd Birthday

Hey Jude,

Happy 3rd birthday, my sweet, sweet darling boy! 
What a year it's been!
You decided you finally wanted to start talking. And I'm so glad, because you're totally freaking hilarious. 
Some of my favorite things you're saying now are:
"Ma-mom, boops! Boops!" (Mom, boobs!). 
"Hoey crap" (holy crap) "Oh, NO!", "Oh MAN."
"No, no touch." 
"Train! Ready, set, go!" (whenever we see a train stopped at a station) 
"Come 'ere!" (He says as he waves to you violently to come see what he's doing). 

And what you're doing:
Kissing me constantly. 
Pointing and kissing my belly and saying "baby!" And whenever you see an actual baby girl you walk up carefully and stroke her head and kiss her cheeks. 
Pushing dining room chairs around the entire house to reach everything you want. 
Sitting on our stoop perfectly content. 
Waking me up every morning by handing me one of my necklaces. 
Discovering that lying in the bath tub and covering your ears with water is the most magical thing ever. 
Asking daddy to "wing" (swing) you at every possible moment. 
Yelling "Ma-mom!" and running to me even when it's only been 5 minutes since we last saw each other. 
Always being willing to give me an extra-big bite of whatever you're eating. 

You're the light of my life, buddy. And I know you and little sister are going to be the absolute best of friends. 

So today:
Mommy and daddy got you a scooter. We thought hiding it in daddy's office would make it safe enough, but this morning you woke up before us and found it. By the time we rolled out of bed you were already scooting towards us with it. 


Just look at that happy, blurry kid! 

Then we had oatmeal with strawberries for breakfast. And of course all you ate were the strawberries, and then we got ready for your two friends to come and celebrate with pizza and cupcakes!


Just look at those darling girls and their gorgeous
mama! (thanks so much for coming to play, Melissa!)

 

When our friends left we scooted around some more. 

And continued eating non-stop.
No like literally, he ate non-stop
from breakfast on--whatever, it's his birthday.


Saturday we're going to have a family
party for you to celebrate with Papa (Grandpa Burwell)
since your birthdays are only a day apart!
Can't wait to see what this next year brings.

Oh wait, I already know. A baby sister. Can't forget about her. 

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